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10th December 2018 

Counselling and Psychotherapy practice in Newbury, Hungerford, Marlborough, Harley Street London W1 & Central London

Psychotherapy believes that our childhood experience is of paramount importance. That how we were brought up, the social and economic conditions we experienced, our parent's attitudes towards us as individuals and those of significant others such as teachers, siblings, figures of authority are the key factors in how our personalities have been formed and how we relate to the world as adults. Many people suffer from lack of confidence and lack of self-esteem, or feel angry or depressed or feel stuck in a rut and cannot find the motivation to move forward and fulfil their ambitions and have the kind of life that they want. Others find they have difficulties in their relationships at home or at work or feel lonely and unable to form relationships at all.

Whatever the problem, the general approach to psychotherapy and counselling centres around bringing the unconscious aspects of a person's problems to consciousness. This is mainly done by exploring a person's childhood experience as well as looking at their life today and enabling the person to see how these two are linked. We are all products of our early life experience and conditioning, and in making this conscious we can then see that our adult life is in many ways a reflection of our childhood, how we tend to treat ourselves in the way that we were treated, how the same key figures or situations keep appearing in a different guise causing our childhood experience to play out again and again. Other ways of facilitating consciousness are working with dreams, creative imagination, visualisation and body work.

When we can see how the past is being acted out in the present things become clearer. Having gained that insight and understanding of why we behave the way we do, think and feel the way we do and experience others the way we do, we are enabled to see how we repeat negative patterns of behaviour, set ourselves up to be treated in a certain way and are able to see what is stopping us from being the person we really are. In looking at the past in this way and re-experiencing our hurt, angry and sometimes confused feelings and then honouring these feelings, we are able to move on and have the life that we really want and deserve.